If someone has a History Of Being Shitty, just because they are notionally "one of my people" doesn't mean I have to welcome them or accept people in my communities welcoming them. And I'm not tagging this with meta because this goes beyond recent events on this network, it's something that I see all the time and I will not fucking stand for it.
So after everything that's happened over the last week, here's a boundary that I shouldn't *have* to make explicit that I'll be pinning to my profile now because of abusive figures with clout in this network:
If you think that someone's marginalization excuses them from criticism, especially if they are acting in a way that marginalizes others, stay far the fuck away from me.
so since the "anti-trafficking" law was passed:
* backpages has been taken down
* tumblr has become a shell of its former self
* craigslist personals no longer exist
* trafficking has increased
* prosecutions of trafficking have dramatically decreased and the Trump administration has even proposed to cut the budget for them by 80%
almost like it was never about trafficking at all, just about attacking queer people and sex workers
As members of the queer community, polyamory should be counted among the acceptances we demand.
It's true that polyamory is not, by definition, queer. But queer people who *are* poly are punished for it in a way poly cishets simply aren't. We should demand equality in this regard.
If you aren't poly, that's fine. I'm not saying it's the only right way. But we need to demand that we feel safe in our right to defy the concept of a nuclear family.
on asking for money
begging is work. it is labour. whether you are on the street, or on the internet, it takes time, and mental and physical energy.
sometimes people might look down on you for trying to survive, or all of the usual means of receiving money electronically have been denied to you, or they might be cops. they're the boss, dispensing sideways moral advice and stealing your wages.
it's a battle to never let this crack you. that is also work.
it's nothing to be ashamed of.
the word "drama"
the word drama is used to trivialize real problems. drama as a word derives from you know: theater. fictional, fake, false, and exaggerated. when you call something drama, in effect, you are calling the people involved liars.
this isn't a subtoot of any 1 specific person. this is a recurring pattern i see throughout society, not just the fediverse.
when people have real concerns, don't write it off as drama.
Androgyne, coffee lover, absolute fucking nerd, admin of Jubilife
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